reading the signs…In my previous post I talked about asking the Universe (or God, or whatever works for you) for guidance whenever we reach a stumbling block in our lives…when we get to the situation where our mind is about to explode and desperation sets in. The Universe picks up on our requests and always responds. It does however have it’s weird ways of doing so and it’s our job to interpret these answers, reading the signs.
When talking to a fellow human being, when asking a question, we expect that person to communicate in ways we’re all accustomed to. Regular talk, emails, text messages, letters and so on. The Universe, on the other hand, can express itself in many different ways. The message may arrive as a new feeling inside our bodies, a situation that arises, a phonecall we receive from old friend, an post we come across on the Internet or even a random facebook status.
Asking the Universe for guidance puts a whole series of things in motion. The same thing happens when we turn on the engine of our car. Hundred of parts move in synchronicity, working together so that we’re able to travel from one place to another.
Once the request is put forward, we need to tune our frequencies and open ourselves to everything that is presented to us. But don’t expect a message written in the clouds or for some ghost to appear in your sleep. Even though the cloud formation would be cool, the answer is usually a bit more subtle. Sometimes it’s a little hard to decipher, but it’s always there.
Last weekend I was having a little trouble with a person and couldn’t quite understand why I was being treated in a certain way. I asked for help and the following day someone from my teenage days (which equates to a very long time ago!) got in touch and started bombarding me with messages. What have you been up to? married? kids? what’s been going on?…the questions started getting a little too much (will you over to the UK to see me?!?!) and I decided at that point that I should stop replying and leave her like that for a while.
The following day I reflected about all this and realised that what I was doing to my teenage friend was the exact same thing that was being done to me! Why should I expect people to treat me differently from how I was treating others? I immediately got in touch with the long lost friend and explained to her that I thought the discussion was going a little too fast for what I’m used to (and also that I wasn’t going to visit her in the UK). In doing so I felt liberated from an annoying situation and I probably set the other person free from some silly idea that was running through her head.
This lesson also helped me resolve the difficult situation I was experiencing the previous day. The other person was not comfortable telling me what was going on, leaving my with a lot of questions in my head and not knowing what to do. I then realised that the only option available to me was to disassociate myself from that person’s actions and accept the fact that I had no control over the situation. I decided to move on to newer things and to turn that event into something that was, rather than something that is. There wasn’t need for me to understand what the other person was thinking. It was enough for me to move away from a situation that wasn’t doing me any good, creating space for something new to happen.
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I read your three 2015 posts.
Seems like once you enter the examined life, it’s a one way ticket 😉
Don’t really know how I should comment on this, but here goes nothing 🙂
I enjoy your honesty in trying to deal with these every-day-life scenarios, trying to find a way of looking at them to change the relationships you have with other people and ultimately yourself. We do project ourselves on the world and I feel that even the way we understand others and the advice we give to others (something I’m coming to understand recently in fact) is actually based on what we are observing in ourselves – and is the kind of advice we should be giving to ourselves.
When it comes to other people, it also seems that sometimes we’re just struggling for the right kind of human connection but are looking for it in the wrong kinds of people. I’ve had different yet similar experiences, and, for me at least, part of it has to do with the fact that these people have similar ’emotional wounds’ as myself, and through them, I want to see these wounded parts of myself projected which I unconsciously want to heal. In that sense, I’m not genuinely interested in communicating and connecting with the person for who they are, but I want to connect with them because I sense a certain familiarity in them? If that makes any sense? I don’t know if it’s technically good thing to do, but I find I am learning from it – with all the ups and downs that entails.
You reminded me of a line I read last week: “For it cannot be that he who speaks maliciously does not hear maliciously.” It’s very true. But I find it at times such a struggle and continuous conflict to maintain this dettached and embracing relationship with myself and what I perceive. Sometimes things click and I feel good and it works. Then some days, it crumbles me with over-thinking and introversion….
I like your idea of signs, although I think it can be a bit dangerous if a person has a habit of victimizing themselves, and turn ‘Signs’ into ‘Saviours’. I think we create the signs in a way, as a personal symbolism. We cultivate the world or reality – or narrative actually – we live in, which allows us to steer our attention in the direction in the paths are mind is on (paths in plural because there are many voices in our mind going on that we are trying to navigate through and reconcile, which makes our a single path in fact very multi-dimensional). I feel that when my mind and reality is cultivated in a good space, I begin to notice these almost serendipity-like feelings, reading or seeing things again and this time they are something total new that make sense in a completely different light. In that sense, I feel the kinds of meanings that come from signs and moments are dependent on the space I want to create. A space where I am able to really listen to myself and what’s around me. If this space is important to me, then the way in which I’m spending my time everyday, is more important than ‘what I should be doing’ everyday or the ‘where I want to go’. It becomes about the ‘how I want to be’.
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Thanks for taking time to comment Marcy. You’ve raised some interesting points…yes, we most certainly attract people who have the the same issues as we do. If we spend too much time fixating on a particular thought we automatically become a human magnet to anything that’s related to that particular mindset, including people. Looking back I can find so many examples of this happening in my life. That’s why it’s important that we change our thoughts and start attracting new and better things.
As for the signs, it’s important that we keep an open eye when asking for help. If we believe that everything is a coincidence it means that we have no faith in a greater entity that’s ready to assist in our spiritual growth. We’re constantly presented with infinite situations and solutions, but most people choose to pick the same ones over and over again. When it’s time for us to move on we need to choose a different path, a different friendship, a different brand of chocolate. These options are always there…it’s usually us who’s not ready.
Peace and love.
Andre
thank you for your reply 🙂
Very true about what we attract and not seeing all the possibilities. It is about the letting go… The problem is that, in my case, you make friends and, for better or for worse, you come to care about them even if they are not always a positive influence all of the time. I find it a bit of a tricky business though I push myself to keep open for new and different people and relationships. Or at least I think I do. RE coincidences, not sure if I buy into the external spiritual entity and asking it for help – a bit to much of a conceptual ‘other’ for me… But I do think that we should seek harmonization and create a space where it is ok not to know, and to ask for help from people we know, and give ourselves permission to heal. It is a type of brave surrender, the way I see it I guess 🙂 Maybe need more of that surrender…
Thank you for your kind words and keep up the blog:) It’s a positive space and a place to learn about one’s self.